Be Kind – Good for the Soul – But Harder Than it Sounds!


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A few weeks ago, I came across one of those enlightening Facebook quizzes that promised to “determinemy dominant personality trait” based on my responses to a number of questions. Okay, I’ll bite.

I took the quiz. Here was my result:

“Your answers reveal that kindness is your most dominant personality trait. You are very sensitive to others and rarely have a bad thing to say about anyone. People are constantly impressed by your thoughtfulness. If someone is having a bad day, you always seem to know how to make it better.”


Now, lest you think I am sharing this with you to brag how awesomely well I’m doing on my 2016 New Year’s resolution to Be Kind, well… I’m not. As much as I would like to claim that I’ve been a little ray of sunshine everywhere I go since making my Resolution to Be Kind, I can’t, at least, not with a straight face.

The truth is…I’m finding it very hard to Be Kind. Oh, sure, it’s easy to Be Kind to people who behave themselves; people who aren’t inconsiderate, incompetent or otherwise irritating, but… well… nearly every day I find myself failing miserably when I encounter inconsiderate, incompetent or otherwise irritating humans.

But as they say, the first step in solving a problem is to admit you have one. So, here I am, publicly proclaiming that I’m having a problem Being Kind.

I want to do better. So here is how I’m going to try to Do Better at Being Kind:

  • I shall try to remember that when I choose Kindness, I don’t have to fret about seeing the person I was unKind to and feeling weird;
  • I shall try to remember that when I choose Kindness, I don’t have to worry about what others who may have observed me being unKind are thinking about me;
  • I shall try to remember that when I choose Kindness, the person I am Kind to might have been expecting an unKind response and be grateful not to have received it;
  • I shall try to remember that when I choose unKindness, I hurt myself as much as the other person, due to the emotional state I put myself in (related to the above three factors!).

Off I go to Be Kind!